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I think the thing that is so offensive about this cover is the way she's posing. Who breastfeeds like that? Why didn't they just go to her house and take a picture of her breastfeeding naturally. Why the suggestive pose and the tight clothes? Why give it a sexualized tone?
Exactly! If they needed a breastfeeding photo to sell the story, a natural setting at home would have been so much more appropriate!!
Yup, but that wouldn't have the shock value and that's all these lefties were going for....shock value...offend Christian conservatives. That is what this cover is about.
They didn't give a rip about how uncomfortable this was for the child or what it would be like for him down the road having this photo to deal with the rest of his life.
For me it's ALWAYS what's best for the child...not what the mother wants. This is all about the mother. Me, me, me.
Bingo! This is not how this woman breastfeeds!! This cover was meant to be in your face offensive! I'm glad you got it finally!
Do you realize that there are Christian Lefties??? The Right-Wing does not have a handle on Christianity.
As for the terrible story of the child being suffocated, that is unique and has just the same odds as the outcome of heart or neck surgery. It is rare, and you happened to learn of it. Attachment Parenting is not your decision at all ... you did not know about it nor did you see the benefits of it. I do, and I support it wholeheartedly. I support this woman, and if you YouTube the interview with her, Dr. Sears, and the editor of TIME, you will see that this is just a 3 year old infant, you will learn that this is not how she feeds him, and you will hear from Dr. Sears, and the Editor of TIME.
This is not a religious issue, not a persecutorial issue, and not an issue at all. The fact that we are all investing so much time and energy into this says that we are focusing on the wrong things. The Magazine has been published already, so there is no changing that. If you don't want to buy it or support TIME, then don't.
Just relax.
Right. Even disgustedmale is doing that. Making it out to be us attacking women. Not. We find the cover inappropriate and believe this is a private matter that should not be on a magazine cover...at least not in this pose she's doing.
And again ... a personal attack! Did you not read the agreement when you signed up for this site to comment???
I still don't understand the war on women thing. I'm a woman, and I don't feel put out by conservatives.
It's just the left with their distractions. The contraceptive issue was a constitutional issue. The federal gov't has no business telling a religious institution, nor any private business what product they must offer. They know their base is stupid so they called it a war on women and like clockwork they all parrotted the line.
There's people who sees something wrong. Other don't.
Who's thinking about sex?
There's nothing sexual about it. The problems to those who object to this can be found on many levels and can very well be defended.
The woman needs therapy,here comes Dr. Phil.This is the people that have inward trends toward Pedophilia,Dangerous folks!
You make no sense tjgong! Pedophilia??? Do you have a child that you have breast-fed??? Jailed? Let's just round up all the women in the world who breast-feed their infants/toddlers beyond the age of 6 months, and just gas them for being anti-your-sentiment. Would that make you happy??? Dr. Phil????? That is quite funny!!! Dr. Phil is of course an expert on everything!!! Jailed and Pedophile and Dangerous. If you'd bother to watch the interview with this woman, her 3 year old, Dr. Sears and the Editor of TIME Magazine, mabye you'd see what was going on ... but I doubt you would invest your precious time in doing any research, especially into Acceptance Parenting, and even possibly into a YouTube search on Interview about TIME Magazine's Controversial Cover ... neither would chage you mind probaby. That is the problem with our Society today, the reason the USA is going down ... we are too divided, too polarized, too mis-informed, and too biased by Media. Dr. Phil ... Ha!!!
And, Therapy??? Apparently she's already been influenced by some very competent and out of your league experts on the issue. So, therapy, no. The boy needing therapy, no. In fact, he will probably never need therapy in his entire life! He will probably be a great athlete, a great scientist, or a great anything he puts his mind to, because his mother and father made a serious investment in him, unlike other parents, who either haven't had the time, or subscribed to antiquated Gerber influenced weaning techniques. I was, and over the long haul, Gerber costs famlies thousands!!! Breast milk is free!!! Do not judge, lest ye be judged - Jesus Christ.
I am afraid that this kind of behavior not only borders but falls directly within the parameter of pedophilia.The women should be jailed.God forbid the boys friends visit and she mothers them.
If this woman wants to breast feed her 4 yr old, that's her business. I think it's weird but not such a big deal. However, the magazine cover is what I find troubling. It doesn't shock me. I'm pretty loose and open-minded when it comes to sex. I get it. They're trying to shock. But what I find disturbing isn't the breastfeeding. It's the picture and the way they are representing the issue. There are a few things that are very disturbing about the picture. Mainly, it sexualizes the act. Also, it's exploitive. The boy looks like he is being forced, "manhandled", by the mommy. Is this about a loving mother breastfeeding her child, or a dominant mother who is forcing her son to drink from her breast? I'm not so sure. Is this about the child's needs or the mother's desire? The title "Are you mommy enough?" further pushes the idea. The tough woman. She looks like she is dominating him. They could have chosen many different poses to put on the cover that would have gotten the message across without sexualizing it - but they chose not to.
It's funny that they talk about bonding - does that photo look like bonding to you? No, it looks like bond-age.
Are you kidding me??? Soft Core Porn????? What??? I love women and this does nothing for me in terms of arousal. It is commonly practiced around the Globe to breast-feed and to do so in public, and for a period of years. I commend TIME for this bold Cover and I commend this woman for standing up for women's rights to feed their children as they wish, and even to do so in public or for a public audience. If you want Soft-Core Porn, subscribe to HBO, Cinemax, or Showtime. TIME Magazine is one of the greatest forms of Media we have and has been so for the better part of a Century.
Did you get disgusted with TIME when they showed a Vietnamese man being shot in the head, with blood flowing out the other side?
I just saw this on the local news. Gosh, who'd of guessed she lives in L.A. They reported that this is her son and he is 4 years old. SHE was breast fed until the age of 6 and believes in "attachment parenting" (which includes sharing the parents bed to improve "bonding". I'm not sure how many husbands would go along with that!)
I wasn't going to comment, but wanted to make an observation regarding recent events comparing when I was a young adult to today.
My son was born in 1975 (after being married for 3 years). When I was pregnant I wore maternity attire. It wasn't my grandma's maternity wear, it was nice stuff. Now I see pregnant gals walking around in tight skimpy t-shirts, and some that just let their bellies hang out uncovered for the whole world to see. Mothers breast fed in private. We didn't raise our children to be "attached", we gave them the ability to be independent, starting from a very young age.
Even in those days, yes there were gays that functioned perfectly fine in the business world. Several became my close friends. NO ONE cared what they did in the privacy of their personal life. I knew, but I didn't care because they were good people, and they kept their private life to themselves and didn't shove it anyone's face demanding acceptance.
It's sad to see how modern society has lost the concept of modesty and dignity or even good manners. Frankly I don't give a rat how long a mother breast feeds but I don't want it shoved in my face, especially in a public place. Same goes with the gays - keep your personal life to yourself please and stop shoving it in my face!
My, my, how society has changed.
MaxineCA, it has changed. You ought to see the clantily clad women who frequent local clubs ... they wear next to nothing to entice men and then when they find the best hunk, they go home with him, simply for sex.
Has anyone challenged Playboy (Hugh Hefner) for allowing nudity to be distributed throughout the world? These women flock to him to have their nude pictures taken. At least he has been tasteful until recently, upon which his daughter took over, and tried to make it more tasteful. What about Larry Lynch and Penthouse??? He is not tasteful at all!!! That is true pornography! And all of the other publications which are now hidden by plastic coverings???
TIME has produced nothing sexual nor pornographic in their image of this woman breast-feeding her 3 year old. The image is a bit Shocking, but that was the point, just as we were sold "Shock and Awe" by George W. against Saddam Hussein. Media sucks, quite frankly! Do you realize how many innocent civilians were killed in Iraq, in the name of National Security??? Thousands, if not Millions. Saddam was never a threat to our National Security, WMDs were never found, and it was all about controlling a substantial amount of Middle Eastern Oil. The Bushes, Cheney's, and Rumsfeld's had huge interest in this, and through Halliburton, who screwed (pardon my expression) the US Military out of Millions, and now through their brain-child, Black-Water/Z ... Mercenaries hired by Monsanto ... Google Monsanto ... the worst company in the World.
Modesty is good, and I appreciate that in a woman. The immodest ones are not worth my time. But, I will say, that TIME did not do this for any other reason than to produce dialogue about Attachment Parenting ... a very good practice in my opinion, going against traditional Pediatricians' advice, and Dr. Sears advocating for long-term breast-feeding for immunity, the infant sleeping with the parents instead of being relegated to a crib (quite a lonely experience despite the mobile's intended to quiet us), and then being transferred to Gerber's Formula (through us they made billions). Breast milk is free, and comforting attachment to a mother and a benefit to the father, is amazing to me ... I cannot imagine what it would have been like to come from darkness into light, to open my eyes, and to feel the comfort of my parents on both sides of me!!!
Please consider that the shock value of this photo is nothing more than to open a look into Attachment Parenting, something we all could have benefited from.
You never mention the child in this photograph. Look at the fear in his eyes.
As for sleeping with your infant, that is dangerous and many infants have suffocated by sleeping in the parent's bed. I had a friend who let her baby sleep on her bed while she was doing chores and he almost choked to death on a blanket that got wrapped around his neck. He was rushed to the hospital and thankfully he lived and didn't suffer brain damage.
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I just keep thinking about the style of dress comments.
When did bikinis come in style? 1940's.
Or the hippie dress-style of the 60's
There were actually maternity bathing suits that were quite fashionable. Bikini top with material in the front that went down far enough covered the maternity bottoms that had the expandable panel. Very comfortable as you grew through the summer.
No one said it's indecent to breastfeed in public. We do feel that if you are going to breastfeed in public than have a blanket.
Again, it's the sexualized nature of this photo we find disturging. The tight clothes, the way the mother is "posing", the frightened look on the boy's face. Look at that child's eyes. He looks terrified.
Did you look at the pictures? It might give everyone pause to realize it is only recent history that proclaims it indecent to breastfeed in public.
Timeline of Breast Feeding Art History
to MaxineCA
Sounds like we're near the same age. Doctors told me I'd never have children and while they were wrong it took 10 years.
If you look into what "Attachment Parenting" it's a bit different from what you seem to be saying. It's based on research which discovered the "link between disruption to the child-mother bonding process and the emergence of violence and fear based behaviour".
Go back to the families of pre-World war days. Before the government or planned parent changed our way of thinking. It's the closeness of the families like Laura Ingalls Wilder who wrote the Little House series. It's the bonding that was formed for a life-time that prevented so much criminal activity. Also, only a part of the attachment parenting is the family bed which is still in practiced in many other countries today.
My personal opinion I find it's the way to break the free-love, non-caring, non-loving, hippie-style of love that really is only self-love. The "Me" style generation of the 50'. 60's and 70's, that can't wait to send the kids to school so they can have their "me" time.
And as for public places, take a look at pictures, images, statues done through the ages. Breastfeeding is NATURAL our modern thoughts against it are NOT.
You are so quick to judge with your comment:
"My personal opinion I find it's the way to break the free-love, non-caring, non-loving, hippie-style of love that really is only self-love. The "Me" style generation of the 50'. 60's and 70's, that can't wait to send the kids to school so they can have their "me" time."
Hate to disappoint you, but I don't match up with any of that. So are you saying anyone with a differing viewpoint is that way? If so, I disagree. Many of us grew up in kind, loving homes, and did so with our children with many generational close bonds. None of our family nursed that long or slept in our parents beds.
Unless you are Amish growing your own food, churning your own butter, raise chickens and livestock, don't give me the little house to the prairie stuff. If you were Amish, I would say bless you, but since you are are on the internet - I guess not.
I've been personally attacked here many times by many folks. I am not flagging them, as I would like to keep the dialogue open; however RightStuff1 has taken it a little too far, and is projecting way too much. The agreement I made with this website was not to personally attack anyone, and I have not; however, if he continues, I will report him. And, though this is an extreme right-wing website, and my flagging will probably not mean a thing, I will take action.
Yeah, that is what seems to be lost on the supporters of this picture....what the KID wants....
That's what I thought. Not so terrified, but not exactly like he wants to either.
I think he looks terrified and he looks like he was forced to do it and that he didn't want to do it.
Myth, you made is sound like that all folks that disagree and refuse to suckle their child into their childhood were somehow selfish. That is how it came across.
Oh, and as far as it not being pornographic, I strongly disagree. It is intentionally pornographic. Had it been a loving photo of a woman sitting in a chair breastfeeding her happy, content little boy - that would have been a-ok. This photo is FAR from that. See my other comment for more thoughts on the domineering and sexual nature of that photo. That poor boy looks helpless.
Children have no problem bonding with their mothers AND fathers whether breastfeed or not. There is no data or anecdotal evidence to support the idea that breastfeeding - regardless of the period of time - encourages better bonding or closer relationships, happier kids, etc. None. That notion is romanticized fluff. I raised three children practically all by myself. Being a male, I never breastfed. ;) Their mother didn't breastfeed. Somehow all three kids managed to bond to their parents despite being fed formula from a bottle. Go figure.
You seem to be very hyped on this issue. I never said it was porn of any kind. I was just stating how our culture has changed from one of respect, modesty and dignity. You are new here so you don't understand my age or my view points. I'm old enough to have learned many lessons in life and do not need any lectures.
Let's just respectfully agree to disagree, and leave it at that, OK?
@Maxine,
It is a commonly accepted practice to breast feed well into the early years of child-hood. Not only does it promote mother/child bonding, it insures proper transfer of immune-system components as the infant grows into a child. It is a global phenomena, that has been going on since before any of us were born, and in public.
There is nothing sexual about this photograph. There is nothing wrong with this photograph. In fact, in our society, women typically only breast-feed for 3-6 months, due to our society's (the USA) Protestant Ethic of Work First. FMLA is good for 6 weeks. Breast pumps are terrible for a woman's breasts, and so I truly commend this woman. I would imagine, as in your comment, that the Amish practice the same ... though I don't really know and don't really care.
It's about women's rights, and a mother's right to feed her child as she wishes, and even in public. Since when did we become so afraid of seeing a woman breast-feed her child in public ... when did that become an abomination? We happen to live in a very sexually repressed society, so when we see an image like this, most typically see it as sexual ... hence the title of this post ... "Soft-Porn". In NO WAY is this Pornographic, as that would mean it was sexual. It is not.
I re-read you comment, but we'll have to agree to disagree on this whole "attachment parenting" concept and leave it at that. OK?
WOW, way to take my comments personally when they were NOT intended to criticize at all! WOW I am so blown away with the twist put to my comments.
I was speaking of the "attachment parenting" style of life. Not yours.
Please re-read what I said. I was not, nor ever intended to criticize, again, I was trying to explain what attachment style parenting is.
When this topic first came up, I remember Dr. Keith Ablow commenting on FOX that this is very ABNORMAL behavior relating more to the mom's need to hold on to the child which is not good for the child. I'm going to see if I can find his comments.
I wasn't going to post a comment - but just couldn't hold back.
Excellent, I'm happy to know you won't be trolling here anymore. I knew you were sent here by the left regarding this sick photo. You NEVER commented on this perverted woman whipping out her breast for her 4 year old adopted son who she just recently adopted. SICK. No comment on that, eh?
The climate changes all day long. Sure the earth goes thru warming cycles...it's called the sun! The more sun spots there are, the warmer the earth. When the dinasaurs roamed the earth there were no ice caps...and no cars!
If the illegal alien in the White House and Al Gore were TRULY believers that man caused global warming, then why do they fly ALL the time on their own planes? The manmade global warming hoax is a socialists plot to take our money and control our lives.
Thanks again for confirming for me that you were sent here. I'm guessing "mythslayer" was sent here too. I can tell because neither one of you ever posted here before and your names were named to fit this article. You and "her" will most likely never post again and that definitely confirms it for me.
Take my advice and start reading those websites.
Actually, believe it or not, no-one has programmed me, well except to be a patriotic US Citizen and to Salute the flag and say the Pledge of Allegiance and sing the National Anthem. I went to school, I studied quite diligently many different subjects, have befriended people from all over the world, discussed with them topics like religions, politics, etc. I don't even watch television ... it is all biased one way or another. There was a survey taken and study made on three groups of people. The second most mis-informed people were those who watched News other than FOX, the most informed were those who watched no news, and the most mis-informed were those who watch FOX. FOX was rejected by Canada due to flat out mis-representing truth, denying Climate Change (which Canada is truly feeling through the melting of the Permafrost (fact)), denying peer-reviewed Science, presenting false science, and flat out lying to people, as well as smearing people. I commend Canada, and this is my last post on this website.
It was quite a pleasure learning how and what extreme right-wing convservatives think.
What do you want? You want to shut down all the corporations? If you don't like corporations, quit using your computer.
You people are hateful! Murdoch is Evil!!! I don't have cable either. I don't subscribe to TIME Magazine. We all got this from a quip on the Internet. Personal Attacks aside, we are all in the same boat, the same country, and we should all attempt to have dialogue about what truly matters ... that is our grand-children, our children, and ourselves. Rightstuff1, that is another personal attack for which I might just flag you, but depending upon your response to this, I will wait. Mean??? Have you ever met me? I haven''t been mean to anyone, since grade-school. Pixie Dust? I don't even think illogicality is a word in the Oxford American Dictionary. How did our country become so divided, so polarized??? We all want prosperity for us and our progeny, right? Since when did it become wrong to believe differently politically speaking? You read what I wrote earlier RightStuff1 ... you are extremely Judgmental. Again, Jesus preached against this. He was judged by the Pharisees and Sadducees (Fair I see and Sad you Sees). There ya go, yet again. I am a Democrat, which apparently in this country has become a Sin, but thank God we have two parties ... we should have more, but unfortunately we are polarized by the Elephant and the Donkey. Where in God's Plan has humanity been forgotten? Where and when did you stop caring about the Poor, the Under-priveleged, and the Un-educated or those with developmental disabilities who are being undermined by Medicaid Transformation????? This is not God's nor Christ's desire in my opinion. Please research the candidates you support and their funding sources. You will probably see, if you do the research, that they do not represent you either; rather Corporate Bullies who run this Country today. Our fore-fathers are rolling in their graves as I write. Not one Corporation cares about anyone of us, except for our ability to invest in their success, their Profits, which then we profit from. Please stop the personal attacks, or I will flag you for it. Let us work together as US Citizens for a Better Future for the USA, or we will all or you children will all resent us for it.
I do not read TIME. And you probably don't either. So what we are dealing with here is an Internet Media Frenzy of Controversy. Apparently this site has claimed that TIME has produced Soft-Porn, which I completely disagree with. That is one problem with the Internet age and bits of inromation day to day. We do not see the whole picture.
TIME is a factor, as they produce Media. FOX is a factor too, as they produce Media. Media is produced to influence/program our minds to think one way or another. I do not watch Television for this very reason ... I just happened upon this on Yahoo News! That's the only reason I am even here. They mentioned this website, and I was alarmed that this website would call this Soft-Porn.
I truly think that we need to stop relying upon Media to program our thinking. I truly believe that each one of us wants to get back to the days of Social Discussion, of What is Right for All vs. Alienating us and Polarizing us, for the purpose of Profit. We have been relegated to simple hamsters on a wheel, doing whatever our masters' want us to do ... The Corporations that Rule Us now, just as the Church of England ruled those who sailed on the Mayflower and fled from. Do we truly want to be this Polarized??? Or, do we want the USA to thrive, for all of us to have another chance at the American Dream? Or, do we just not want to give a damn, to let the Media tell us what and who is our Enemy, our Opponent, our this and that? I do not think any of you want this. I certainly do not. I am not an extreme Liberal, but I am not a Conservative ... what point would that be, since I have no savings, no house, no guarantee of Social Security or Medicare when I get too old to work??? And, quite frankly, I am in a much better place than 30% of US Citizens. We cannot continue to quibble and fight amongst each other, considering that most of us make less than 1/30th of what Romney makes per year, just through Capital Gains. How many of us have millions if not billions in un-taxable income in the Cayman Islands??? Maybe 1 of 5,000 that have visited this site??? I don't know.
We are all United States Citizens, so let us come together, stop pointing fingers, forget about any media of any sort, and think for ourselves. What kind of world do we want for ourselves and our children and our grand-children. At the rate this Country is co-opting us, our Grand-Children and even Children will slaves of a Machine, a Machine that benefits the few, and not the Marine Corps, The Few, The Proud. I only wish I had joined the Military, as I would now be a beneficiary of VA services (Socialized Healthcare) and the GI Bill (Socialized Education).
He is a lib and by definition insane, bigoted, mean, nasty and vicious. Sprinkle in some pixie dust for pure illogicality and youve got the modern lib.
What I really find to be ironic with "disgusted" is his outrage at us for our "close mindedness" for not agreeing with him regarding this cover and breastfeeding to the age your child could remember it. He doesn't seem to grasp that folks are entitled to a different opinion/viewpoint than him without him name calling and calling us brainwashed. He shows his closed mindedness with folks that have a different opinion than him.
Yeah me too. I don't have cable either. Sometimes I watch it when I go visit my parents, but I told them the last time I visited that I can't watch most of it anymore. They aren't really informing much anymore (especially since the Saudi's bought a bunch of their stock in 2005). O'Reilly is nothing but folks giving their opinions now and Bill just talks over them with his sanctimonious attitude.
Hannity is still informing on some of his shows.
I get most of my news off the internet now.
I get the FOX argument ALL the time which I find hilarious. The only time I see FOX is when I read Scoop ;-)
Well, if Fox has programmed us, who has programmed you? Media Matters? Ron Paul?
If Fox is factor, why isn't Time a factor?
I don't watch FOX. Don't have cable. I am quite capable of making my own decisions and gathering information without being told what to think or believe.
I am not trying to expose anyone's close-mindedness Mike, as I don't know any of you. I just am saying that FOX is heavily slanted by Billionaire+ Rupert Murdoch. I don't know if any of us can relate to being a Billionaire who can convert as many people as he does to FOX's Agenda.
We are all in this Boat together, pawns of a much bigger power than we can even comprehend. It's called Corporate Greed. And, each of us, no matter what morals we have or agree to, cannot escape it.
But, for those who tend to rely on FOX, tend to become reliant on FOX's slanted opinions, and their "Experts", which in reality are paid well to give their "Expert Opinions" which are then deemed by followers as fact.
No, I am not saying Maxine is dumb or anything of that nature.
All I am saying is that Dr. Sears' philosophy and studies make complete sense. Attachment Parenting is amazing, in the results in children that it produces. Some may take it too far, breast-feeding til 10 or so, but not many do that. The women and men I know who breast-fed til 5-6 are very healthy individuals, with not a damn bit of abnormality about them, and I am talking adults. We have been programmed ... you must realize this! It is a fact! Programming has been taking place since before Hitler ... since the Advent of the Television. That's why they call is TV Programs for God's Sake. We pick and choose and follow what we think is moral or immoral, with the exception of PBS and the NASA Channel.
I do not argue against you; rather, I argue with you. Yes, we are programmed. Yes, MDs and others on FOX or CNN or other major Media are extemely biased and are paid for what they say is true. But, it is time, as a Society of Individuals who are affected at every level by Government decisions, which don't boil down to Family Values or anything we truly believe in; rather who's paying me the most for making this vote, we have to take our Country back.
TIME is not a factor. Acceptance Parenting is quite legitimate and good, but we have been sold another Perspective by the AMA ... wean at 3-6 months, do so in private, and then feed your children Gerbers' Formula (Gerber has made Billions on the American Public and Billions more with products they have produced which, deemed by the FDA unacceptable to the USA Public, sold to 3rd World Countries). It is Pathetic!!!
None of us can judge this woman or TIME if we are truly Christian!!! Christ would not accept this.
Because she saw a doctor on Fox commenting about this, somehow you turn that into a silly rant "but now I understand where you are coming from. FOX is an expert on everything, FOX is an expert on everything...."? Ironically, this shows your closedminded bias while you attempted to expose Maxine's. lol.
That explains it ... Fox News ... Rupert Murdoch and his ability to get into our minds and program them. This is not a personal attack in any way, but now I understand where you are coming from. FOX is an expert on everything, so when they say this is ABNORMAL, it must be ABNORMAL, right? I encourage you and AmericanborninCanada to do some research ... look at MythSlayer's website, and learn about the benefits of breast-feeding for a longer period of time than we have been taught is perfectly acceptable, programmed to believe by our Obstetricians what is the timeline, and what is ABNORMAL, inclusive of Health Benefits to the child.
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